When to use it
Use it to shape how you offer help across your network without burning out.
How to apply it
- Notice whether you tend to give, take or keep score.
- Look for help you can give that costs you little but matters to the other person.
- Set boundaries on when and how much help you offer.
- Be more cautious with people who consistently take without giving.
- Ask for help yourself too, so relationships stay two-way.
Tip: Grant's research found givers at both the bottom and the top of success measures; the difference is boundaries.